Haven't we been over this ground? There is no puzzle here. W had space in her R with OM to be a sexual being and she felt sexy with him. W does not have space in her R with you to be a sexual being and she does not feel sexy with you.
A big part of this is probably because of her, because of how women are raised and socialized in this country. It is very difficult for a woman to hold onto her authentic sexuality while being in a wife/mother role. Part of it is probably how you interact with her and your expectations/vision of her to which she feels compelled to conform. Your choice last year to bring rubber ducks, the kind without built-in vibrators, to a planned love-in says a lot. This is old ground. I know I've written you many long posts about this sort of thing. Maybe you'd be more open to hearing what they say if you go back and read them again.
As for being too accommodating, that isn't going to help her, your M, you, or your sex life. As for doing it to make her happy, it won't work. As for pouting about this previous choice of yours and waiting for payback, it is unbecoming. Read PM if you want a better way to live.
