My UFO (unbelievably fabulous observations)

[hoosiermama]

Ah, I see! then I'm chuffed about hearing back from you!

Hey, I don't know where that belief came from about the first relationship necessarily being a rebound and therefore doomed. It was he who came up with it! There's a corollary, too--for every 5 years you were married, you need to add a year before being in a committed relationship (e.g. 20 year marriage = 4 years of solitude). He's rather left-brained, being a behavioral scientist and all...I think the numbers give him something concrete to hold onto! But I think it's rather arbitrary, myself. Not quite at the point of that Celine Dion song--"Taking Chances." Not completely trusting myself yet. Actually, my marriage was also the first relationship after my first marriage of 3 years...and in retrospect, it was a bit of a rebound, I suppose. But then, hindsight being 20/20....Anyway, to the extent that I can trust myself, this does feel right, it makes sense logically (very much in common, especially the things that most matter). After the abandonment I experienced throughout much of my marriage, the push-pull of this relationship (normal, healthy) is excruciating, so it's a bit of a learning experience. And that's not a bad thing.

Yes, I do need to let the bad stuff go. And some days I'm better at that than other days.

Thanks for your encouragement!