OK - how about a 180 here then? If the agent calls, say something like "sorry, I can't deal with this right now but would you mind phoning my H on 1234567 so that he can assist you?". Put the ball in his court ... what do you think??
Scroll to the top of the page and you will see the blue Twitter button. Hit it to be directed to the site then just answer the questions to register ... it's really, really easy ... just have a look - it doesn't compel you to anything but you might learn something new, if you do!
WAH 43; W 47 M 16; T 17 Cats 15 & 6 Bomb 27/05/09 ow 28/06/09
"It is only on the darkest night that we see the stars"
Thanks Nell, I might consider that option. I really don't think I can deal with any more move issues.
Selfish H, I have his dinner ready for him as usual but he just went and got himself some chips and for the first time ever, offered me none, ate the whole bowl himself. Had to count to ten and get back on here to vent so I didn't hit him on the head.
The nasty side of me would have said "if you had picked up the BBQ, you could have had a steak with those"!!!!
Sorry - I just get so angry when they show no respect for us but that's what we are dealing with, right? It's our job to teach them that the worm has turned, there's no more Mrs. Nice person and they need to start respecting us for the strong and valuable input that we have to our families.
Another 180 for you ... or detachment, call it what you will and again, only to think about: would you consider not doing tea for him tomorrow and see what reaction that brings? I'm sure that will be a struggle for you (as it would for me) but it may be a short sharp shock as a one off.
WAH 43; W 47 M 16; T 17 Cats 15 & 6 Bomb 27/05/09 ow 28/06/09
"It is only on the darkest night that we see the stars"
Hi Nell yes it does make you angry when they show no respect but we have to expect that.
I will keep doing dinner as was discussed on some recent posts of mine, I can detach but still do the things I have always done. I still have to cook for D and I anyway.
Next Tuesday will be a shock for him because I am going out (he doesn't know that yet) so he will have to heat his own dinner up for a change, which he always has trouble with and asks for help anyway, usually gets D to do it if I am not here.
That's another question, do I tell him I am going out or not? If I do, do I have to say where I am going or only if he asks where I am going? Bearing in mind most of the time I don't know where he is, he doesn't say and I don't ask. Or do I just go out and say nothing.
Well here we go folks, just stumbled across a few more things that have just confirmed that my H is definitely an MLCer.
Whilst googling on the net just then, the search history appeared showing sites for nightclubs in the city and wait for it, a site on how to make your hair thicker and also regrowth (H is balding, like his whole family) plus some sites on mens clothing and ties. He certainly is not coming back any time soon.
At least I was able to have a bit of a laugh, some weeks ago seeing that would have made me sick in the stomach, but now I really realise just how tormented his mind is and in a way it is a bit sad. But don't worry I am not about to say anything to him at all or tell him he is fine as he is, it just makes me realise even more now how important it is for me to do the things I have planned to do for me.
Well since my weekend starts tomorrow as I don't work Fridays, I have some big plans.
Friday getting my hair done, join the library, then afternoon coffee and then dinner with friends.
Saturday drive D to work, go to garden centre and get some nice potted plants for the balcony and I want to plant a small herb garden and a few vegies. Need ideas here though for Saturday night.
Sunday take dog for big walk down to the beach for some off leash play which she will love. Spend some time outside in my newly planted balcony garden to do some reading (hope the weather stays nice).
In between there is still the boring stuff of washing and cleaning but we won't mention that.
Good on you (((Oz))) - happy that you are joining the library - you need to get lots of books on MLC and hair loss now and tell us which works best!!
Doing the garden always makes me a bit better ... you see reward for all the effort - much faster too than DB'ing!! Sorry, feeling cynical today, too!
Glad that you are finally able to say these words "I can detach but still do the things I have always done" as a few days ago you weren't even sure what it entailed ... that means that you are headed in the right direction. No looking back now, you hear?!! Keep going Oz ... your candle is burning brightly.
WAH 43; W 47 M 16; T 17 Cats 15 & 6 Bomb 27/05/09 ow 28/06/09
"It is only on the darkest night that we see the stars"
I am actually pretty pathetic at gardening, but I figure a handful of potted plants and herbs can't be too hard to handle, it is actually the first time I have thought about doing this, I think because I view this new place as mine and my own little sactuary.
Oh and going to get a wine chiller to go with the wine whilst I sit outside on Sunday reading my library books. Would be great if all my DBing friends could join me.
