thanks bluerain, i was wondering when you would chime in again. I wish this whole thing was as simple as me being "controling" Im just lost as to what needs or should be done. I say this because if im too dark it does push her away but if im too nice and there for her then she will just walk all over me. I can see how she would use me as the fall back person until she feels better and then im dirt again.
now from what my father has been told her whole deal with the money is the D/A can take 10 months or so befor they even charge her or arrest her. I dont like that it can take so long but, I guess they would rather work on bigger crimes (even though hers is pretty bad) It is a small town so I hope they get to it soon. now she has no job so no income and i would think she would loose her APT soon and OM will of course loose his free ticket. I dont plan on telling her about the time frame because if she gets a job it might allow her more time in her little dream. I dont think this is being mean after all as you guys have said it's her problem not mine. and why should i help her live this dream with OM. its so sick though that he is such a user and scum but she cant see it..
