After 30 Years!

[Eskimo Nell]

OK - great! Well done on that - that's a 180 you can be proud of and it will make him see you are becoming strong, confident and independent - you DON'T need him to do the banking for you, you have now sorted it yourself!! Well done Rabbit - have a carrot!!

Now that you have that bit right, I am jumping to your last sentence where you say that you have him to do a few bits of banking for you - so, now that you are chuffed about doing what you have done in your 180, why not extend it and tell him that you will do it all for yourself. Take those reigns ... keep pulling up the slack until you are in total control. H will be wondering what is going on!

Something that's on my mind from your last post - are you opening his mail - how else would you have known about the lessons? If you are, I would advise you to stop immediately. Ask him to redirect his mail or get some alternative arrangement. I learned this one quickly. My H accused me of opening his mail, which I had not, but he straight away pointed out that it was immoral and illegal to do so! I reckon that he would have taken me to task on that, if I had done it and he could have proved it! Just a thought there for you. Also, if you don't open his mail, you can't find things that hurt you - or incriminate him. Don't be that person.

As always, these are my genuine thoughts only. Others may disagree or have other ideas to add. You must make up your own mind what is said here and do what feels right for you - just add the advice that's offered to plump up the words in DB or DR books and plan your way forward.

Remember, this is all about YOU so matters not what we think, we are purely trying to stop you falling down a rabbit hole! I have had some great pearls of wisdom cast before meo n my threads so read away, if you dare!

Good Luck for this afternoon - I truly hope that you get this job. Try to act as confidently as you can and 'act if' everything in your world is just peachy! Let us know how you get on!