Actually, my W is very pretty, but she is far from perfect. My W is a normally passive personality who is currently acting out in a passive-aggressive manner. She does not like conflict and is generally a path of least resistance type of person. Basically her M.O. is to get me to hate her and to react the way she wants me to in order for me- not her- to do all the dirty work towards a D. Also, she needs me to get angry and hate her so she can feed off of it, work towards hating me more while justifying breaking up with me.
I just reread this part, and this is EXACTLY what my W is doing as well. I have hesitated at filing the D, as this is EXACTLY what she wants me to be doing.
How do you deal with this, when you know it is why she is pushing you?
The only thing I could think of was to really push for EVERYTHING in the D, as she has in her head the 'perfect plan' and 'fantasy' of what life during/after D will be.
Thoughts?
M: 41 STBXW: 41 D: 9 Bomb: 4/26/09
On board the D train now..
"Suffering is when we try to change what we cannot."
