Exactly GIMA. We women can smell desperation, fear and a lack of confidence a mile away. And don't even get me started on whether or not someone is being genuine or just trying to appease us. Just ask my hubby about that! LOL
Originally Posted By: Orich
I don't understand. How does she sense it?
Based on your response, I can only take it that you are in fact super-focusing on your W then?
Orich, It really sounds like you have some major issues going on above and beyond your M/R. Maybe you should earnestly consider seeing someone who can help you out with these issues. I'm not talking about someone who is all about the M and will fill your mind with what you want to hear such as the "hang in there, don't give up hope" talk. I'm talking about a qualified therapist/psychologist who can help you with your personal issues like the co-dependency and perhaps can even teach you detaching. I see you are banking heavily on the weekend at Retro almost as if it's the magic bullet or miracle cure. Honestly...What would you do if you go to Retro and W decides she is really through with you, the M and wants a D? I think the person you are right now would curl up in a corner and suck his thumb. You need to find yourself and be happy with yourself. That is what you should be super-focusing on right now. Like I said earlier; you can't depend on your W for your happiness. Don't feel badly if you can't comprehend this concept. Many others have difficulty understanding it at first. But once you do, your life will be so much richer.
Here is a clip that I think you should read on codependency as I feel it strongly pertains to you based on what you've written in these forums:
CODEPENDENCY: "a specific condition that is characterized by preoccupation and extreme dependence — emotionally, socially and sometimes physically — on a person or object. Eventually, this dependency on another person [or object] becomes a pathological condition that affects the co-dependent in all other relationships"
