What a day. I got to see a divorce petition my W drafted but never showed me. It doesn't affect me - it would have a few months ago, but not now. After reviewing it, I was both amused and angered. Amused that she thought I would agree to what her view of "equitable" is and angered she would have the balls even to think I would agree. Then, I remembered back then SHE HAD my balls. Not so much anymore!
My friend is still in the very ealry stages of dealing with his WAW. From what he has told me, I will be shocked if there is not an OM in his sitch. He's still pretty shocked and numb. The wounds are real fresh.
Does he confront her now? Does he get himself together and get ok with no pursuit first, then address the OM issue?
GIMA, I second what Ashlee says re: seeing the papers. My H said it completely gutted him when he had to look at, talk about or deal with D papers. I hope the feelings didn't linger.
The trouble with having an open mind is that people put things in it.
My sitch - Divorce Busted! http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=1804137#Post1804137
Sorry you had to deal with seeing the divorce paperwork W completed in April. Had to be hard. Keep strong...you are doing great.
Funny thing is she actually created it in February. Really?!? What about that statement you made to me that you were in counseling since October and that you did not even know it was for a M issue until the week before you told me you wanted a D. Wow, another lie. They are almost comical now.
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btw...I'd love to see the picture of you with your hair done!
I'll see what I can do in the next day or so. You know where to look.
GIMA, I second what Ashlee says re: seeing the papers. My H said it completely gutted him when he had to look at, talk about or deal with D papers. I hope the feelings didn't linger.
No, I'm good. It did hurt a little to see what she was once contemplating in black and white.
Then it got ridiculous what she thought I would agree to: I pay 2 private school tuitions, I pay 95% of our debt, kids with her, dogs with her, child support (no issue there), and alimony. Yeeeeaaaaaaahhhhhhhhh. Uh, no.
OK, gotta call my friend to see how he's doing. Back later tonight.
She really thought she'd be living high on the hog, huh?
Unfortunately I think if we all knew all the lies our WAS's told us and knew the whole truth, we may think twice about being here. Ignorance (believe it or not) is bliss!
I'll be looking forward to the pic!
Me: 39 H: 39 S: 15 M: 18 years Bomb: 6/3/09 H moved out: 10/15/09 H moved back:5/30/10
A golfing buddy of mine saw his D papers as well. It's a mirror image to what you've seen. His lawyer told him that his W had him dead to rights. Fortunately, they were able to reconcile; however, it's still a touchy subject for him.
Don't sweat the papers...they were put together a long time ago. You and your W are in a different positions now. You're doing great, don't lose focus. You're an inspiration to us.
Thanks, LFH
ME: 38 W: 35 D2.5 and S5 Married 12 years Separated (same house, different rooms) INILWYAM by W: 4/16/2009 The day W requested a D: 4/17/2009
Hmmmm, I never went after big money with H. I waived spousal and agreed to the state minimum for child support. His family owns three homes, two of which (including the house we were living in) are ocean view properties in CA - I'll let you do the math. I did not go after the real estate.
The only thing I did ask for was to have the child support as a lump sum, up front. It wasn't for the sake of greed, though. It was for the sake of not having to be tied to him for money until kidlet was 18, and because I knew if I invested the lump sum properly, the interest would cover any monthly needs and at age 18, the intact lump sum would pay for college.
H wouldn't agree to that, and probably thought it WAS about greed.
Oh well.
As long as he doesn't divorce me, H has made his last child support payment.
I guess I don't entirely fit the WAW mold, but that's ok - it wasn't a very nice place to be when I was in it.
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The trouble with having an open mind is that people put things in it.
My sitch - Divorce Busted! http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=1804137#Post1804137
I can definitely understand. That's where the anger comes from. It is low grade anger, maybe disappointment in her. I won't ask how she could want to do that to me, b/c I understand. Don't agree, but I understand.
