IMHO - As far as your friend goes, I'd approach the OM sitch immediately. Why wait and let them think they have a 'dirty little secret?' It takes all the fun out of sneaking around when you're caught.
I admire you for not betraying your friend's trust. I do believe in standing up for what we believe in...that M's are worth saving...but we have to keep in mind our WAS do not share our views (at least not while they are in alien mode). If we harp too much (what they consider too much) then all they hear is blah, blah, blah. I think your friend's best bet is keep reading the book and start implementing the techniques.
Sorry you had to deal with seeing the divorce paperwork W completed in April. Had to be hard. Keep strong...you are doing great. btw...I'd love to see the picture of you with your hair done!
Me: 39 H: 39 S: 15 M: 18 years Bomb: 6/3/09 H moved out: 10/15/09 H moved back:5/30/10
