Orich, I am not questioning whether or not you are becoming a better man. If you don't learn how to detach this WAS sitch becomes even harder. Not detaching leads to pursuing, clinging and neediness - very unattractive. What does Sandi tell you detaching is? A weight will be lifted off of you when you see the light. One of the greatest gifts we were given is free will. Even God won't make us believe, it's our choice. Let your wife choose to love you but maybe she won't. It's not your choice to make for someone else. I understand all the reasons you want to make this work. It's not all in your control. Love yourself enough to let her go, let go of the fear and embrace love.
You are on my prayer list.
Cheers
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
