Chel, how are you today? You are doing the right thing by having your own lawyer, you have to do that. It is very important.
What I think might be happening is this. These people meaning your husband and the ow are living in a fantasy land. You do not live there, and neither does the US or Canadian governments. And because he lives in this fantasy that all should have gone the way they wanted it to and has not he has to stick it out at home. He can't afford to live anywhere else right now. He may be depressed, but he may also be stuck and blaming you for his own mistakes and bad choices.
What I can say about my own experience is that I lived with my x for a while when he did not want me. It was hell on earth. I would not wish it on my worst enemy. Without going into the details I chose me. The hardest choice I ever had to make, to leave to person I loved most in the world to his own choice which was not me.
In my sitch though I had another home to go to. If you ask me, consult your lawyer, get a PSA, and get him out of there. This is a toxic situation for you. Wonder
