she wants to be with someone non judgemental, i told her unless she is planning on marrying her therapist she will have a tuff time with that. in real life husbands and wives are going to be judgemental its just the way it is when you care about someone
It doesn't HAVE to be that way. My H and I used to be horribly judgmental of each other...and I could have written what you said your W said word for word. Now, we may disagree, but we really listen to each other and give each other the space to have different opinions.
Judgment is destructive to a R. My H and I have both learned how to manage our former judgmental tendencies...with a lot of work and consciousness about it.
Regardless of whether you D or not, this is something YOU need to work on.
Would you rather be right or happy? Realize you can't control anyone else's point of view or keep trying and continue to bang your head against that particular wall?
Sorry to call you on that, but that's just bull.
On the D front, if she wants a D, let her do the filing, the paperwork, all the junk that goes with it. Don't help.
SD
Me: 40 H: 43 H had EA from 2/06-9/06 Bomb 5/06 Piecing since 9/2006 3/2008: Boundary setting 7/2009: Boundary crossing~dropped my own bomb. 8/2010: Marriage finally on track!
