Well, update is this - after a week of not talking to me and threatening to cancel the move home - he admits to overreacting and would like things to be back on track. I told him that I wasn't open to a move this month since he cancelled it twice. I told him that I was never in favor of setting a date to move until we had more time in MC and felt ready. I thought his way of setting a date to BE ready was not how things work.
As a result H has signed another year's lease and asked for some time apart?! Haven't we been apart for a year already?! His thinking is if we haven't figured it out by now - we aren't going to at all. My thinking is that for three years he has been drunk which prevented our getting along and the proof has been recalling how well we have been getting along since he has been sober and in C. I think he needs time to work on his sobriety and we need time to heal and work on our M.
Guess I will spend the time learning how to be alone again.
