Wife wants best of both worlds

[neversaydie63]

Hello Dwinter,

I have been separated for over 4 months and have read DB and am trying to use the tactics listed in the last resort section ---- some seem to be working a little but we both just keep heading down the same path w/o lots of change (it seems -- maybe I am missing the small stuff)

I can kinda of relate to your situation about the W wanting the best of both worlds. Mine really does not work, and is out with friends almost every night, is living in our old rental house and is setting up her new life (with out me) there. However, she does like to see me (I think) so I am really getting mixed messages from her. I guess that is why I keep trying! There is no EA as far as I can see but she has been talking to a Psychic and has been up (Washington) to see her a few times. This woman is filling my W's head with crap like telling her to leave me and get a divorce and that I was never the right man for her .... so even though she is not having an EA, she really kinda of is. I have told her that if she wants us to work that she needs to stop talking to this woman, she promised she would but I am still afraid that she is -- I really just have no way of telling and I have really tried to keep from going over to the house when she is gone and going thru her stuff.

Sorry, I got off point here, suffice to say that I feel your pain and I think LoLal has given you some good advice -- work on yourself and keep busy and try and put all of the negative stuff out of your head --- be positive and strong when you around her and what ever you do, don’t send her that letter (I say this like I am some sort of freeken expert and trust me when I say that I am not, and I have made all those mistakes and more) but I still see a light at the end of the tunnel and even if it may not be the light I hope it is today, when I get there I will be better, stronger and happier, no matter what that light turn outs to be!

Keep us posted and keep strong!

NSD