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i'm writing from my phone tonight. the keys stick.


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B/c she has detached and you haven't. This is the way these WAS sitvh's are. They already had time to work thru what you are going thru. Get ahead of her. Focus on having fun with your S and detaching, while still becoming a better person. Keep making yourself that person "only a fool would leave.". Nobody said this was gonna be easy. But nothing worth having IS easy to get.

You can do this.


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I want to sent her a text about loving her and wanting her so badly!


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you're the best Gima.


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Originally Posted By: Energizer Bunny
I want to sent her a text about loving her and wanting her so badly!


DO NOT DO IT! clingy, needy, and makes you look like you can't handle it. You are beeing watched with how you react right now. Take your phone apart, hide the battery and sim card in different places. Go take a walk in the park around other people, go workout, pray - but do not use you phone to contact her.
I will dope slap you if you do. Handle it.

Cheers


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I'm writing from my phone too.

Ok, you know where telling her ILY will get you. Don't. Don't.

Its kind of like you just got ambushed and are taking heavy fire. You can either give up and die. Or, you can pick yourself up and fight. I may not win, but I'm not going down without a fight.

Get your emotions out, then pick yourself up and get back to the task at hand.


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Agreed. NO NEEDY TEXTING!!


The trouble with having an open mind is that people put things in it.

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I did end up giving her the whole schpiel earlier. I told her I wanted a chance. Wanter the same things that she said she wanted. I told her that I thought we could have an amazing marriage and I want to be the husand she deserves.

I was very calm. She got very angry. She tried aiting me into anger. She talked down to me and even said she was too young too marry me (now realized 10 yrs later). That hurt.

I ddidnt get angry. Just told her that I want to fight for our family.


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Originally Posted By: Dia
Agreed. NO NEEDY TEXTING!!


I was needy enough earlier.

I won't do it, but it's a hard urge to fight. I know it doesn't work, but it feels like "if she only knew how loved she is..."

It's not like that, I know, but the feeling is there. and strong.


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The schpiel was earlier this afternoon. I couldn't help it.

The urge to fight for was too much.

It felt like I didn't have anything to lose since she just got back from looking at places.


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