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[RedSoxFan]

You really need to give her space and time to live her life. You originally put her through the ringer, told her you didn't want her and so she HAD to move on. That's going to take a loooong time to get over. The rejection is going to hurt for awhile.

I was not born with patience. This part is really hard for me. I believe it's the right thing to do but it's not what I want to hear. I do think that Coach has a point as well. I think that there are probably times when she wants me closer but there are probably some clues there when that needs to happen. If I thought OM wasn't trying to win her over I could wait forever.

Let her have her space while you get yourself together and start doing those changes you keep mentioning.

I'm actually doing well myself. I selfishly spent the last 10 months in therapy, exercising, and taking care of myself. I just can't get comfortable going dark, being in the dark. I miss my kids everyday. I miss being a family. I find it really hard to make decisions like buying a house in their school attendance zone vs. renting something (hard to find) vs. staying where I am and hoping for some movement.