Need Advice, WAW wants to give it a month

[Dia]

Devil's advocate - why is is NOT ok for her to stay out past 10:30? She's an adult, right? She probably had a later curfew when she was a teenager.

Seriously - think about why.

Because you worry? Sorry, deal with that on your own.

Because it drives you crazy wondering where she is or who she's with? Again, sorry, but for the moment, keep this stuff to yourself and/or let it go.

Because it sticks you with the kids for hours on end? Ok, so you can lay down a calm, clear boundary aimed at fair division of childcare hours, such as telling her that YOU will be out on such and such a night and she will need to take care of the children. If she objects that she has plans then, then the two of you need to sit down and draw up a schedule or establish some ground rules about giving the other notice when one of you will be out.

Because it's disrespectful? Well, yes it is but telling her that may not get you much of anywhere at present. Again, though, you could assert a boundary about being respectful of your time and your schedule, but that boundary really only means that she should tell you via text, phone or email that she will be out late on a certain night.