Coach, I think you give the best advice here...and, I kind of disagree on this one. He can't help. She has made that clear. It is annoying to have him pursue it (IMO). However, like I said, when she gets the space she is demanding, I think she will soften and there will be the right moment and he will know it because it will be stark.
That is just speaking as a woman in a similar sitch.