Need Advice, WAW wants to give it a month

[MrBond]

"she wants to be with someone non judgemental, i told her unless she is planning on marrying her therapist she will have a tuff time with that. in real life husbands and wives are going to be judgemental its just the way it is when you care about someone"

Here's where you're wrong. You should never be judgmental towards your partner. You have your opinions, sure, but you have to respect your partner's POV even if YOU think it's wrong.

There's your problem right there. If you told her that real husband and wives are going to be judgmental, she probably shut down right there. I have a feeling that you might be letting your negative "judgment" of her show and I wouldn't want that either.

Think of it like a parent talking to a child. That's why she's relating that you're like her mom. She's a grown woman. Let her make some simple decisions and let it build. I can see how that might have preyed on her self-esteem issues and depression.

You have to build her up and mean it. She can tell when you're doing it to kiss butt. Next time she talks, just sit and listen. You mentioned how you lost it in this last conversation with her. Pure selfishness on your part. That's your 2x4.

Let her make her own decisions and respect them as her own. I think you need to change that part of you before she feels safe around you again.