My guess, and purely a guess b/c who knows exactly how WAS minds work, but that she kind of wants/expects for you to sit on a shelf and not move on and get involved with others. I don't understand exactly why that is, but I've seen lots of WAS get really upset when the LBS, even after Ding them, starts dating. Yoyo is going through that now, and I've seen this over and over.
What i think re: the gifting is you should get a joint gift from your boys. It's what a good parent does. I use money the kids earn from chores to buy, so usually an inexpensive gift, but something the kids pick out and want to get. I have both kids make handmade cards too. I can't imagine a parent rejecting that! Karen
