In Limbo

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Gina,

I did laugh. I love that question, is something wrong. I love when my W asks if something is wrong. I just want to say what the hell do you think, but I usually just let that one roll off. Sounds like you are on a roller coaster ride with your H.

I would agree that I don't know how they can look themselves in the mirror after the crap they say to us. We just have to take it. If we blow up, you know where that leads. She wants this double life that is for sure.

I can't even lay next to my wife anymore. I have slept on the couch for the last month. I find myself either having a hard time falling asleep next to her or waking up in the middle of the night thinking about things. I find not sleeping in the same room has made a huge difference. There is not physical contact anyway. Hasn't been since this started. I wish there was at least a hug--nothing. Don't know how someone can just turn every emotion off instantaneously. But she has. Sounds like there is at least some emotion between you two..

I mentioned earlier after another 3-4am evening for her, I started the argument. We have 3 sons. One has been sick and she still chooses to stay out. Well last sat nite, she said she's moving out, then she says you move out. Then she said I am done..Have heard this now for past couple months. Then preceded to say, you need to find someone else..

Later in the AM, she I asked her to go to Retrouville(catholic marriage encounter). She agreed. And agreed to have an open mind. Not sure why, but we will see.

Detaching--not there yet by a long shot.