The anger you mentioned, sounds more like some projection plus believe it or not (my God I can't believe I'm saying this) she is telling you what she wants from you. What she wants to hear. Maybe that you don't think she is as worthless as maybe she feels. Women, MLC or not, like to hear appreciation for the things they do, because we are expected to do them so often that we forget why we do them. The real reason behind them. Not because we are good or trying to be good mothers, but because we Love and that is the motivation.
Go with it. I have had some of the "face the facts" comments with H lately and he has amazingly seemed very receptive. Not immediately, but a day or two later, the words and actions show that he has been THINKING. I haven't said anything to hurt him, just feels like it is time to remove the blinders if that makes sense. Like I've said before, I really suck at the DB principals so take it for what it is.
Have fun playing you guys.
"Acceptance doesn't mean resignation. It means understanding that something is what it is and there's got to be a way through it."--Michael J. Fox
I have noticed that too. Not really in the beggining of all this, they are too far gone. After a while it does seem that certain things finally start to jive a bit. Even if it takes them 3 days to process.
The projection thing is truly fascinating to me. To watch someone so lost, project things on another that they are ...
Afraid of... Done... Want to do... Ashamed of...
I had a friend ask me a couple weeks ago, How long do you think you can be there ?
It took me a few days to answer her question, so when I saw her on vaca....I had an answer for her...
Until we can talk, openly and honestly about things, and when she can talk to me without the glazed over look in her eyes. No anger or anything, and discuss things rationally and without the lying....
