strange evolution of WAW

[BeingMe]

My friends are telling me to STAY AWAY, until she makes a CLEAR DECLARATION of what she wants.

I don't think she can make a clear declaration at this point. She is cake-eating and at this point (except for the time away from the children), it tastes good. Why would she change anything? You can set boundaries and start making things a little more uncomfortable which might nudge her to a decision, one way or the other. Until then, you are in a kinda limbo, as I see it.