"You and your W both have a way of pussy footing around things that bother you rather than addressing them directly"
Saffie and OT I think the fog is clearing in MY head. I read your posts and yes it comes down to am I willing to live without Sex and intimacy. Well ….80 percent of me says NO. And I am afraid if I did stay as we are it will eventually lead to me having and affair. I had an errand to run and as I passed wife’s office/bedroom I said;
(Calmly) Me: you know wife, it’s really a shame that we will be ending our marriage just because I want Sex and intimacy and you are unwilling to give it to me
W: What do you want me to do fake it? (She has asked this question before)
Me: No But It would be nice if you tried to overcome this problem, you have not tried anything except seek out someone else.
W: I am not seeking someone else
Me; you sought out someone else when you could have come to me and talked about it
The conversation ended there and I went on my errand. BUT I started thinking... Ya know whenever she asked “what do you want me to do fake it? I always said no...
When I got home I told her about some trouble I had with the job and then said:
Me: Wife... I was thinking...yes I would like you to fake it. At least I could see that you would be trying. Of course that depends on how good of an actress you are Wife: (smiled)
After that our conversations for the day have been back to normal… More to come I am on a roll now
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
