Good for you then. Can you think of a time where she said and did all the right things? I suspect it was when you were first reconciling, otherwise why would you try again. What was different then? She wanted you back and knew how to do it? What were you doing then? Probably not being as needy.
It sounds like the discussion portion of this isn't working. She says she knows and will work on the things, but it doesn't happen. Is it because you seem needy. I remember when I first reconciled with my X that I wanted her to show me more that she loved me. Asking eventually became a put off for her, and I can see why because it seemed so needy.
Perhaps creating more space by pursuing your own interests would help. Did you give up things that you were doing once you got back together? It sounds a little like you'd like her to make you feel better about the relationship or spice it up for you. I'm not sure what to tell you about that except it needs to start with you.
You cannot be lonely if you like the person you're alone with. Dr. Wayne Dyer
