Well, for what it is worth, I hate when H asks if I'm ok, knowing how much sh*t I'm dealing with and that he has such a huge role in it.

Don't know if she feels the same but something to consider.

I think it is better to ask specific questions IF you are going to ask and keep it to a minimum.

I feel very uncomfortable when H asks me questions. I don't feel safe answering honestly and I want my privacy.