Newbie (again)

[dday101798]

You know, in posting around again, I still have one unanswered question:

My XW has never given me the ILYBINILWY ordeal. Every time we get back on good speaking terms, XW is quick to drop in that she still has has strong feelings, and times, admitted still 'loves me'.

Why?

A baiting? Attempt to reel me back in?

I never give her a response at any time, just 'read' her eyes and knew she was telling the truth.

Not that it has any bearing on my descision to just finally let this fish complete her jump from the boiling pot to the frying pan.

I've just always been curious about that. Sandi, Dia, any thoughts?

Also, her b-day is coming up on the 14th. I'm of the inclination to not do anything at all given our current disposition. Last year when (althought things were markedly bad) I took the boys to get her a "joint gift" of a jewelry set that the boys really liked for her, she rejected saying it came from me and does not want anything from me. But yet, when I gave her that James Dean poster I just couldn't pass up a few weeks ago, she lit up like airplane coming in for landing.

So I guess that's the second question, do I bother? I'm certantly not and do not want it to come off as persuing, so maybe it's best I just leave it alone?