H just called to shower me with surprised thanks and praise for handling the flowers. Hmm, cool. I was a bit concerned he'd not want me meddling.
Re: his mother. Gifts are difficult and touchy for her. First of all, forgetting or not acknowledging one of her milestones is a cardinal offense, and one that H commits all too frequently. If the gift is well chosen, but poorly wrapped, then you simply didn't care enough about her to wrap it well. Joke cards are mean, disrespectful and right out.
The trouble with having an open mind is that people put things in it.
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