I am lurking and here to offer moral support. I'm not so sure I have any good advice.

I guess if I were to get into a talk with her about not enabling your friend's D, I would say something along the lines of, "I know you want her pain to end, but moving her closer to D will create many *years* of pain for their children. Tearing a family apart is serious business, and I don't think any of us should be advocating that for them right now."


The trouble with having an open mind is that people put things in it.

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