Let's pretend you knew what she was thinking....let's pretend she's thinking: Oh no you don't! I don't like you! I'm going to show you! I'm going to be mean to you! How dare my H care enough about me to treat me with respect and kindness when I'm not doing the same for him?! No way! I'm going to MAKE him be an ass....so I'm not the only one!
Honestly dude, I'm not that far off. Believe me. She's acting like a child who has no idea how to act.