Not much has changed. I was basically tricked (through lies) into separating. I've tried going silent (last resort), and it seemed to be doing some good, but this week I screwed up and for whatever reason felt the need to talk to my kids on the phone (her parents have started screening calls to make sure I can't get a hold of anyone there).
I did propose to her that we wait one year, to let me prove I can reform. Instead, I got this:
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The kids are getting along fine here. Patrick has stopped pooping his pants, and they are minding well thanks to having some personal space and some adequate adult supervision. They seem to be responding well to the personal attention paid them by me and my parents.
With the help of my parents, I am able to exercise some, and have some time of my own, away from the kids. It works wonders for my morale and well being. It is also nice to have an adult to talk to and consult with as I care for the kids.
I am glad to hear you are happier than ever. What specifically are you repenting of? Have you visited your bishop and confessed? Has he given you a program of repentance to follow? Frankly I am skeptical, Two months of repentance doesn't seem enough after 11 years of out of control spending, pretty much ignoring me and the kids in favor of total strangers on internet chat boards, and throwing temper tantrums which frightened both me and the kids and had me wondering about you.
My future plans do not include moving to Alaska to live in your parent’s house. I plan to remain here in Arizona and file for divorce. I no longer love you, and I no longer want to put up with your bad behavior towards me and the kids. You proved to me over 11 years of marriage that you don't love me or the kids. You never consulted me on your decisions. You spent money without asking my opinion. You spent lots of money on yourself. I bought used clothing on Ebay to keep the children in clothes. I scrimped by while you spent a lot of money that we didn’t have. Your idea of a wife was some one to take care of your needs but not to have a true life partnership with much less a companion. I and the children are happier without you. Please be aware that you are not welcome at my parent’s house.
I will not talk to you on the phone. I cannot take your verbal abuse and guilt and cleave unto your husband nonsense. If you want to communicate with me, send me an email. I would like to ask that you don’t make them any promises or try to get at me through them though. I have not and don’t plan to bad mouth you or your parents in front of the children, and I would appreciate it if you would do the same for me. For their sake let’s try to be civil about this. Also I would appreciate it if you would stop flooding my email, my parents email, and my phone and my parent’s phone with angry messages since this could be construed as a type of harassment.
It's all around 10% true, but she's exaggerated it all beyond what's real. She's created a monster in her mind, and she's going to divorce that monster. It's too bad that involves also divorcing me.
The worst thing I have against me, as I said in my initial post, is that her parents have pretty much always hated me, and they are clearly encouraging her to leave me. I can't counteract that.
I guess it's time to go completely dark. And get a lawyer.
Me: 35 W: 31 D10, S7, S2, S11 months M: 11 years Tricked into separation. In Last Resort.
My story: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=1800530#Post180053
