She is so consumed in her own discomfort that she walked away from the marriage and now she is too consumed in her self to hear anything.
This is the root of the problem my friend. This is all about her. She twists you up and makes you feel bad, but everything she says to you, always leads back to...HER. Sorry, but in my opinion you not talking to her is the best thing for both of you. Let her know that you have forgiven her for the past and she needs to do the same for you, if she can't then that is on her. Take care of yourself and get some distance on this for your own piece of mind. Distance will help you get some perspective on the situation and may help you decide what your best course of action is...even if that is to do nothing.
M:39 H:39 K:S14;D8 T:22yr M:15yrs S:12/28/07 EA/PA 3/14/08 OW preg 11/17/08 born 12/12/08 his ~~~~~~~ Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option