OT - I suggested the book PM ages ago. I don't think Doc liked it too much. Just for your info.

Also Doc, don't forget that your W HAS pushed herself outside her comfort zones on occasions - Retro being a big one of those. I think you need to remember the good things too. You maybe need to ask her out right about the sex side of things and if she will go for help - otherwise I don't think she will. I think you need to be very clear on this- not nasty - considerate but clear. You and your W both have a way of pussy footing around things that bother you rather than addressing them directly. You are naturally both procrastinators and that doesn't always work well in a R when there is a problem that needs sorting.

Saffie
me 46
H 46
M in 1986
D20,D18,S16,D13
H's A 01/05 to 07/06
H recommitted to M 07/06
renewed vows 09/06
Going from strength to strength