O, Two things really helped me move towards being detached (emphasis on towards). First, the understanding that some days my W is just going to act in a less than favorable fashion. My IC helped me get through that with a little phrase "that's just how she has to be today." Secondly and more importantly for me, was to relax my dream of the perfect family. I was very much into the concept of being married. It was always my dream to be married have a family and grow old with someone. When my W decided she was not on board with the plan I was devastated on many different levels. The anger came from not only loosing my W but from having my dreams shattered.
Anger generally comes from a collision of expectations and realities. Before I could do anything I had to get a grip on the anger. Anger and love can not live in the same space.
_________________________ Me-41 W-39 M-15 yrs T-17 yrs D-12 S-9 S-8 B 5/08 S 1/09
