OK folks, I think I need some talking me down from the ledge, or maybe I need to vent this, or, more likely, BOTH.
Was on the phone last night with my friend, we will call him K. For those who haven't followed my posts yesterday, K called me yesterday to tell me his W asked him for a D back in July. K's W and my W are good friends.
Turns out that yesterday morning, my W and K's W had breakfast together. My W did not tell me about this, nor has she told me. No big deal. Sneaky, but no sweat.
Here's that part that has me pi$$ed off this morning. During the breakfast meeting yesterday of the "WAW sisters," my W gives K's W a copy of a D petition my W prepared back in April (pre-bomb so she could have all her ducks in a row to kick me to the curb). I have NEVER seen or heard of this petition.
I am not mad she prepared the petition. He!!, I even chuckled about it last night. But this morning, I have anger that my W has now taken it upon herself to assist in the breaking up of ANOTHER family. K and his W have two special needs kids. HOW DARE MY W HELP IN THIS!!
I don't think I'm off base here, and I don't think this is a sign of not being detached. I have no anger/resentment as it relates to my M. But, I am A...N...G...R...Y... at this person to whom I am M'd. And as if I wasn't already questioning whether I still want my W, I sure as he!! am now. Doesn't my W realize what she's doing??? I know, "No, she doesn't." But she SHOULD know better.
We have been to these peoples' house for dinner, and our kids have played together and are friends. What the he!! is wrong with her?
It took a lot just to speak to my W this morning. I did not show ANY of my emotions to her...NONE.
OK, that's the emotional side, and it feels good to get that out. Now for the logical side. The logical side says my W is doing what any other friend probably would...providing support to help her friend stop hurting as quickly as possible.
Now, I cannot reveal to my W that I know what's going on with K and his W. And I won't betray K's confidence under any circumstance.
