Great, I'm on the job! I walk at the beach everyday (well for now I hobble along the beach)so eyes will be peeled. I do have someone in mind though ....
Have to come further north for this deal Julia!!! Sadly, I have no Sydney contacts. Just visited Sydney at easter and it was wonderful but I've only been there a couple of times.
Yes, feeling slightly better each day although returning to work has been more challenging than I expected.
Holiday sounds fab, well done for going on your own.
I hate that when you’re angry with yourself for being angry/jealous or whatever. Feel the jealousy for a bit it’s only normal. What gets me is that OW seems to be slotting in where I should be, which is p*ssy in one way, but then on the other hand I think that my H hasn’t changed his life at all just put in a substitute me which will eventually get wearing. One of his big things was that I never wanted to do anything different, now it seems that I’m doing new things and he’s doing the same old stuff. Plus he will never enjoy family time as the kids won’t have anything to do with her.
Get knitting the niece a jumper or something, give yourself something to do.
I agree your vacation sounds just wonderful! I guess you have one thing already on your itinerary & that is to find a cute surfer dude to teach you how to surf. Well, unless you know already & then you can just act like you don't know. Very cool.
Me39, XH45 Kids 3 dogs, 2 cats Divorced 6/4/09 Tricky thing is not how you live, but how you live with yourself. (POTC)
Gosh, just venting I suppose as I haven't got anywhere else to but my h has just changed his picture on FB and it is a close up of him sticking his middle finger up. He looks like a complete ass - or as we pronounce in Southern England 'arse'
Ok, I might be perceived as 'old' or his mother or whatever but I'm sorry, that is not the kind of man I want. I do not want a man like that. He was so lovely, cultured and kind with me and this is how he acts these days, I have seen it more than once and it is also how she (ow) acts. Have a bit of decorum! Why bury your intelligence like that? He had a top class education. None of his school friends acted or act like this but his new mates do. A classic example was when we were moving and his sister's boyfriend came round to help and h started being laddy, I could see this act he was putting on. I DBed and didn't judge or react etc etc but you could see he felt silly being like that in front of me so it was very half-hearted. Maybe it isn't an act these days this is how he wants to be, I know he is only 27 blah blah blah but whatever it is, I'm not interested in that and for god's sake man, grow up and don't be so crass. Be a man. When I saw that picture I just thought to myself 'where have you gone?'. What an idiot.
Hmmm, Julia, I've wondered about these changing personality traits myself. My H isn't being ocker or anything but OW is certainly from a different background to him. His manners and aggression are certainly not those of the man I married. Got me thinking......do they reinvent themselves in some way? Do away with the old H because in their mind that persona didn't bring them the happiness they thought they deserved?
Well, to be honest he always had these tendancies. When we were at uni he was like that with his mates, and I was too with my friends. We both agreed we didn't like those traits so didn't act like that in front of each other, because that is just what it was, an act in front of friends. Not who we really were. I hope I don't come off as a prude, I'm aware that I can be a bit uptight sometimes but I go out and have fun with the best of them . I love to go out and drink and club and have fun but with a bit of class.
I don't know if it is part of the crisis. Going back to teenagehood etc, I have no idea. I don't take it as a reflection of our life together because I know that we were very happy before these new (as they were then) friends.
I have been pining a bit lately, maybe this is just what I needed to see. That is not what I want. If it is what he wants - fine go ahead. I don't have time for it. I know he is trying to impress people and it just does not impress me. Maybe that is why he isn't with me anymore.
It's not just the finger thing, it is the horrible exression on his face.
