My STBXH went to visit OW when she was doing her year abroad at Manchester University. He complained about that trip for months afterwards. How she was so difficult to travel with, etc etc etc.
Sometimes spending that much time together really makes it apparent two people aren't meant for each other!
So, no jumping to conclusions about their holidays.
Now, back to your regularly scheduled chocolate program!
Michelle - Proud DR Rockette S: 28JUL07, D'd: 29OCT09 http://tinyurl.com/27j9qo2
I see what you are saying about the holiday not being all that but for some reason I am pissed off about it - perhaps more than that, I am jealous and angry with myself for being jealous.
I keep telling myself to trust the process, patience and all that as it has worked in the past but I get more angry with myself for still caring than anything else. I am trying to put it out of my mind but I do at the same time need to deal with it. I am so hard on myself for feeling things all the time. But then if I do feel it, it is not fun.
On the plus side, I had a wonderful weekend with my brother, SIL and niece. My brother is always so fun and such a lovely brother to me and my niece is just a little darling. I know I am biased but she is so cute. She just smiles and smiles and is at my favourite age where they can sit up but not crawl yet.
I know another couple who went o/s together after being together for a couple of years (he left w for her) and that was the end of the R. They worked out then that they were both very different. Holidays are often times of tension if communication is not really good. So often people go with different expectations(-eg one wants to visit all the sites, the other is there to relax) and then the arguments start. I know that I've experienced both the wonderful, romantic holidays and the tense ones!
Their trip is what it is but you too have to be kind to yourself at this stage. Love you!
I think him going on this trip with her brings up old stuff for me too as it was May 08 when I found out that they were in New York together and that was via FB - as always! He denied anything was going on and still maintains that now. I was on my own in a skanky hostel room in Kuala Lumpa and it was probably one of the worst moments of my life. Just before I found DBing. They have gone back to the same place.
Yes, I'm travelling alone when I go. Although, you meet so many people when travelling that I doubt I'll be alone for long. Maybe I'll find some hot surfer dude and elope to Sydney
Ahhh, the past is what the problem is, that is why I feel the way I do. That whole horribleness of finding out that way about ow and that he had been lying to me - although I continued to be in denial for a long time after. That is what I am cross at. It brought back those horrible feelings. Phew, it feels good to have worked that out. Ok, I feel much better knowing that.
Not at all.....oh to be 28 again!! You after the carefree, bronzed Aussie 'surfer dude' or the Aussie guy who loves to surf before work and on the weekends?
