EB - thinking of you tonight. Sending you lots of hugs and good thoughts. I'm so sorry. Hang in there. It's not over until the ink is dry on the page. My H has also moved out and told me a couple different times he spoke to a L. He still hasn't taken legal action, after 5 months.
Remember to watch words not actions. Sometimes physical space is what is needed - WAS sees the other side of separation, not just the fantasy. It's often not as great as they originally might think. Also, it gives them time to miss us. Thirdly, in some ways it's less painful because you don't have to watch them walk to their own bedroom every night.
I'm just saying - although you may be in panic mode, it's not over yet.
I agree - take some space yourself to be with yourself, your S, and to breathe. Surround yourself with friends, enjoy nature, whatever soothes you. You will survive this and so will S. Love yourself and your S the best you can. That's all you have control over.
