EB - I only scrolled back a page, so I don't know your entire sitch... but I feel for you tonight. Such hard news to take, even if you wondered about the condo searches on the computer. So heartbreaking to think of her consoling your S.
But, you need to take care of yourself and your S now. That's it. You can't control what your W does, and if there is an A ongoing, you don't have her attention and will be wasting your time and energy engaging her. Maybe you could get out of the house for awhile or do something with your S. Get away from your W for the moment and regroup.
So sorry for your heartache... but you WILL get through it. Practice some of that prayer you've been working on.
My BF emailed this verse to me today - maybe you can find some comfort in it too:
Word of the day: Hebrews 11:1. Now faith is being sure of what we hope for and certain of what we do not see.
