back after 10 weeks of recovery and need some help

[steady]

Ok. Sorry it's been so long. I'm going through my bit of crap here so I don't get here as much as I usually like to.

I'm with you on the affair stuff. I'm in the group of calling them out on it when you have proof. I don't like living in a lie so that's my take on it.

I'd call her out on the phone. If you have reason to be in her room and it's not just outright snooping (I'm not against snooping but she'll totally use it against you) then you can say you keep finding the charger etc.. The problem with calling her on it is she might get even sneakier at trying to hide it.

It really all depends on how you feel and what you want. Guilt will push a cheater to start acting nice and friendly. But there's no guarantee that's what is happening, but I have to say a lot of those signs are pointing in that direction.

I wonder why you aren't getting more visits to your thread. I may have to yell at a few people here...

Go look up Puppy Dog Tails and see if you can get his attention for a visit over here. He gives great advice, and is in the confront them when you catch them mindset.