Thank you! That is an amazing thing to hear. Gives me hope.
It's hard enough having the usual neglecting of each others needs in our marriage without the criticism and anger. It's almost too much sometimes. But I do see hope that he may be able to change - he seems to be responding to me putting my foot down. How hard was that? VEry hard, for me -= but with practice, hopefully it will get easier.
Well no way would H ever in a million years hear anything from other men - his ego is so fragile, he just couldn't handle it.
However, I always welcome hearing a male perspective that is not angry and critical - since frankly it's new to me. I appreciate any male on this board's perspective on how he might handle things differently. Then I can begin to see there is another way - to be treated, to be in a R, it gives me hope.
I'm working on my self esteem so that I can get to the place where I would stand up to H - even though he is the WAS - and know that unless he changes too, I won't want him back. I'm trying to remind myself that a R can be different = with him, or with somebody someday.
