I'm new wondering if this works...

[BigJohn]

Hope,

You are welcome! From what you describe, you handled last night very well and you can do it again. In fact, it seems to me that you have just created your first boundary with your H in how he reacts at dinner time. Now how hard was that?

I have to say, you really sound like a sweet woman with a tender heart. I am sure that I speak for other men on here who read you post when I say it makes me sad to hear how your H treats you. The majority of the men on this forum don't even come close to how you describe your H's behavior. Most of us are just good men who got caught in a rut and unintentionally neglected some or most of our W's needs until it was too late. If there was only some way to travel back in time and do things differently!

If you ever get to the point where your H might benefit from hearing how other men perceive how he is treating you, just let us know. Sometimes getting that kind of feedback from another man (or men) is the only way to get through to some guys.

Take care.