Cire...says I must be logged in. Will check on that.
Grace..oh year. I hear you. I ignore the hostility now. If I didn't, I would be stressed out from her all the time. It is little different from meltdowns that my 8 and 6 year old have from time to time, only more 'refined'.
Wishing you all strength. FIB
Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11) Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10 Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;
Hi FIB, just checking to see what is going on with you. I just noticed our kids have similar ages. How is that going? How much do they know? Stay strong, K
I lack the time now to adequately write but I'm Just checking in fast to say "WTH is with your w?" again, and sending you a SIGH...for your stbxw. My MIL is here and requires 24/7 with the brain damage from radiation (the lung cancer is all over the place now, and her time with us is very limited. God help me, but I find myself a bit impatient b/c of the relentless nature of her needs..."please God, don't let ME be this way ever"....but I digress).
Um, don't worry about advice you get regarding your anger and all that. You're fine. She's angry. As for how long or how much she'll be like this, who knows? But Don't mind read or assume the worst, but be prepared for it. (I mean the text translations are ONLY worthwhile if you make them funny....and YOU COULD....OMG you could)
Seriously, I think she's a miserable woman who has no idea how to get out of this mess and MUST blame you for all of it. But does she regret it? YES...can she get out of it? No, not now.....and IN case K4d does not know, not only has she had an A (or 2 or 3 or ??) but she called you "satan" in front of your kids NOW she is apparently having an A with your children's UNCLE!! Gee, at least they won't have to welcome a stranger to the family, b/c he's already IN the family!!
Despite my approach to forgiveness, b/c i think WE have to do it for ourselves and our lives AND maybe for our M's if we are lucky, YOU do NOT need this type of women in your life as a wife. I just hope your healthy anger at the injustice you've endured, does not pollute your future with new women who will deserve trust and respect and honesty, which I hope you'll feel safe in giving. I know so many good women out there, so eventually you will be fine.
Sorry, but I don't think I'd hang in there hoping for a reconciliation/restoration with this wife, nor do I think it's a good idea, unless she has a detectable brain tumor that accounts for all this...just my .2 cents.
hang in there FIB, only a bit longer, and thanks for the hilarious piece on the guy who's gf didn't know he was on vacation. (I stole it of course).
(( j ))
PS Brian Regan is a (clean!!) comic with a hilarious take on "middle aged" dating you must listen to sometime....re: our growing idiosyncrasies, etc. If you get a chance, you'll find that you are so not alone, and he'll make you laugh a lot.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
To Kalni...my kids are 6 and, today, my son is 9. Happy Birthday!!! We will have a small cake for him today. Tomorrow I arranged a one hour pitching lesson with a retired pro with his cousin from across the street. Then, dinner at his favorite place (yes, iHOP), then cake and family party at my sis' house. My kids know we are going thru a divorce. My son appears adjusted to this. My daughter was trying to get us back together but this behavior has stopped. We had about 8 sessions of family counseling and the FC has discharged the kids but wants STBXW and I to return in late September (separate days).
To 25...I see in your sig it now says 'busted'. True? Wow. Congrats on that. As for your MIL, I am sorry about that. My aunt...my father's sister...is presently near death at age 90. She ignored a breast CA. After that...there are only 3 others in our family then....WE are on deck. If there is anything I can do to help, let me know. As for my BIL....I wonder what's going on. After thinking about this for a week or so, I think that STBXW is in cahoots with him against my sister and I. I also believe that they may have met to discuss financial strategies with regards to our two houses. My older sister was the money earner in that relationship and, as such, is getting hammered. He is torturing her.
Kerry...thanks for hangin' in here.
Finally, my dishes got piled up in the sink. Yesterday, she took them out and stacked them on my bills and papers in the kitchen.
FIB
Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11) Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10 Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;
PS....I always hoped and prayed that STBXW's anger would dissipate over time. Even thought that it would improve when the initial outline sent by her atty to mine said 'joint' (recall that I filed for full custody when her behavior was out in left field).
Now,honestly, I don't think STBXW's anger IS EVER GOING TO GO AWAY. Not for a long, long time. Long time.....if at all.
FIB
Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11) Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10 Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;
One thing I am having some inner difficulty with is the couples/friends thing. When I say difficulty, I mean...sorta...just processing in one's mind. How did you (or other's) work through the feelings of having friends split time equally or even unequally.
I know that the important thing is that the kids get to see and have playdates with the other kids. I know that SHE has more free time than I do. It's just hard to process all the horrible crap that shes flung and then see friends ......uh....
FIB
Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11) Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10 Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;
I still keep in touch with some of my XW's friends. But my situation is quite different in that XW is not angry and she has praise for me.
It has to be very tough for you knowing that she is speaking harshly about you to common friends. But if they are true friends, they will know your character and see your STBXW for who she truely is - an angry woman who puts on an act. Continue to take the high road and dont bring up the hostility when speaking with common friends.
