WAW - Very confused and devastated - pt 11

[confusedinpa]

Well she called me shortly after I talked to the boys. I thought it was the boys so I answered. It turned out she wanted to talk about who would get the boys this Monday. I told her that I wanted to see the boys as much as possible and wanted to see them that day. She then started complaining about how she doesn't have any fun time with the boys and wanted that day. She then said that she also wanted Sun Sept 13th as well.

I told her that I wanted to be able to see the boys as much as possible so that with our current arrangement, I do not have that many days with them and want to see them as much.

She said I had more hours with them. I told her that I would switch if that is how she really felt - she could have them on the weekends and I will have them on the weekdays. She didn't respond.

She then started into how she didn't appreciate how there are other people there when she picks up the kids. I told her that right now I'm still processing all the hurt and pain from the discovery of infidelity so I couldn't even stand to look at her.

I then took the opportunity to tell her how I did not appreciate being cheated on and lied to all this time. She tried to spin it as it was just a fantasy world that she was living in, implying that it didn't really happen, and I really don't know what I think I know. I asked her to explain. She said that she was just having conversations with herself so I shouldn't read into it anymore than that. I told her to stop the lies as I'm tired of all the lies and did not how cruel she was in not just cheating on me but also blaming me over and over.

I think she is nuts

She stayed defiant and non-remorseful as she said that she felt like she was lied to and hurt all the years so she felt was she did was appropriate. I stopped her and just said that if she felt it was appropriate, then why lie and hide it. I told her that I've lived my life honorably and respected the commitments I have made. She then said that she felt the same about her actions. I told her that I expected her to say that but I didn't agree and many people will agree with me. She said many would agree with her as well. I told her I'm not going to get into a debate with her on this.

ARGH!!!!!