I have been here at DB for a long time. Never really thought my sitch would come to this forum, but non the less here I am.
My H actually left our marriage a long long time ago, in fact, it is highly likely he was never in it at all.
The good news is that with the counseling I have had I am finally able to face this fact and begin to do what needs to be done to move on with my life.
Tonight I am meeting with a financial counselor. I am also going through the Divorce Care workshop right now and it is very valuable stuff!
Me 54 DS19 and DS17 Married 06/1989 Divorced 01/2011
Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..
Hi LolaL, sorry I was not behind the bar last night. I hope you were able to get served
I met with the financial guy yesterday. Of course he could not tell me what will happen (guess his crystal ball was not working), but I do feel better after having someone look everything over.
I guess it is time for me to take a leap of faith and go for it (ie file for D). I will make the best of what ever God has in store for me.
Me 54 DS19 and DS17 Married 06/1989 Divorced 01/2011
Your H is military right? If so hopefully the financial person you saw have a good knowlege foundation on military pay and benefits? My spouse is military and I have made sure that the attorney I've spoken to is very knowledgable of military pay and retirement.
I found you, too, NNP. I think having some set "laws" with the military retirement will be helpful in the settlement. Don't give up anything that is rightfully yours (that is spoken from experience) Be wise!
imagine that... just you and me, some things never change.