Hey Hope You are making progress. You asked something about how do you get H to straighten up....I'm under the impression that you "straighten up" H when you do first. I'm not saying you need to "straighten up"....but you need to make changes in you that you want to see in him. If you want him to be kind, be kind. If you want him to yell and scream, yell and scream first. If you want him to be respectful to you, you first to him. What sucks is this: you can get him to yell and scream soooo much faster and easier than you can get him to be kind and respectful. But with some persistence on your part, you can do it. I do think though that it's difficult though when someone is yelling at you about something so small and "who cares?" that you just don't even know where they could be coming from. I hope it helps you to know, that your H is having a nutty with a lot fog around him.
The other great thing about being what you want other people to be is that I think we generally want to be kind and respectful, so making those changes in you first then maybe prompting your H to make the same changes is win win. You know?
