You don't. But his actions are not that of a man in love anymore than my H's actions were of a man who wanted a divorce. (He never acted like one except for about three weeks in January. Other than that, he was/is around an awful lot for a man who "wants out".)
But let's say they are. What are you going to do about it? Seriously? Nothing except work on you right? You can't erase her or hypnotize him or tell them both, "You're big fat doo-doo heads! Stop this!"
So, do the only thing you can do: Work on you. Be a strong confident sexy woman. Let him know, don't tell him, show him, this is what you will be walking away from. Make it hard if not outright impossible to leave. You NEVER give up hope.
Here's where you stand and it's great news: The biggest factor in turning this around is not your H or her. It's you. And you have COMPLETE control over you.
If you were your H and you know him better than anyone else, what would you want?
When you start being the woman you really are, which is confident and secure and ready for whatever this crazy world throws at you, he'll notice and this will be a no brainer situation.
And really Swimming...he's not in love with her. He's just lonely. Change you--change that for him.
