I suspected that H may move in, said that from word go! Can't figure out why he would leave on Thursday though - can't see that happening either - why move twice within a week?
"That will be one mighty hard thing to do, backing off on the laundry and stuff. I think he may be a bit agro because he did tell me to find a house for just D and I which I did, but now because he is here there isn't enough room for all his crap and I think that has hit him a bit".
Yeah ... who said that this was going to be easy??!! It's hard and it hurts like hell but from what I am seeing here more and more, this is where we have to go before we can make H's sit up and notice us.
Have you said anything about not being enough room for you all? I guess not as you would not want to rock the boat at this stage. Still, if he is noticing, that in itself is a good thing.
Something that I think gives me PMA is to look at the facts when I have been challenged on them. You now say that you think that H is cake-eating ... how does that make you feel? Angry, resentful, hurt, bitter ... like a doormat?? If we stay on the floor, a doormat is all that we deserve to be ... we need to get back up and show them that is not our rightful position ---> which leads to you telling yourself that you are better than that, deserve more than that, respect yourself more than that, have family and friends who would NEVER treat you like that ---> and so development of PMA. That's the way I see it, anyhow ... does that model work for you??
Are you feeling any better in yourself today, rather than just your emotional self? I hear that you are trying to re-surf that high wave and I know that it's not easy.
I'm watching how you spring back up in the next few days as I think that I am going to be on your heels. Was feeling strong doses of PMA but now I am sinking and, as the weekend approaches, I know that I am in for a long haul until I have something planned again - counselling next Monday. The rain has arrived, again, and so outdoor activities are out. Seems that this is normal for us all, too!
Will be around heaps today so just like Dr. Frasier Crane - "I'm here and I am listening"!!
WAH 43; W 47 M 16; T 17 Cats 15 & 6 Bomb 27/05/09 ow 28/06/09
"It is only on the darkest night that we see the stars"
