That all sounds so good! OK, you have 5 months which is plenty of time. I have to tell you b/c I did that living together phase before H moved out for 4 months where he was wanting a D. I was READY to have him move out at that point. Yeah, he treated me like crap, texting the OW in front of me all the time, etc., but even if he hadn't I think it's a sitch where I wouldn't to do that for more than 5 months anyway. I didn't begin to detach at all until after H moved out and gradually stopped coming over too.
I understand you want to maintain a good R with her b/c of your kids, but on the other hand I don't think you envision life after D like the glowy, best buddy way that your W does. I think you should at least give her a little taste of that reality, not by being unfriendly, but starting to detach, take your kids out and GAL with them, GAL some by yourself. Do business things that will protect you in the case of a D.
