Hi Bill, I have caught up on your thread & am so sorry. My H is pushing too, after not hearing from him for a week but he's been talking to L and is starting again. I am sure living together is so extremely difficult, but in my case H & I are like strangers. There is no pretense of being married even. It's chilling. I can see from your posts that living with WAS is no picnic either. I can only imagine how hard it must be with kids, and my heart goes out to you & them to have to go through this. But for me, I sort of feel like without kids there is little to keep us connected. Anyway just wanted to check in & wishing you the best in your mediation appt. Sounds like you are doing everything right, all that you can, and getting really clear on what you need to do. Very strong, bravo! Please take care & sending positive thoughts your way, LFA
Thank you very much. The support we get on this message board is very important. I'm really torn on the pros/cons of my situation. Yes, W and I are friendly, we're cooperating as a family, which, most significantly, will be good for the boys. I tend to wonder how much our current situation is keeping me from detaching. I miss her so much, and she's right there. I think the temptation for us to support each other is very strong. It's hard in a lot of ways, but even if we get a D in the end there are a lot of positives.
I can't imagine what you must be going through though. My heart goes out to you too. Stay strong!!
So, today we both went and saw my L. Went through the thing of her explaining to my W what her L was doing, which again, was not the instructions my W gave. She was majorly pissed off at her L.
So at this point, W is having her L cancel the mediation appt, cancel the court date on 10/1, and we're planning to go through my L for mediation.
She did not call off the D as we'd discussed so we have 6 months. Well, 5+ months I guess. And she's still talking about us being in the same house until the kids finish the school year.
So, in summary, we've turned down the fire a bit with the court stuff. But still getting a D.
I have to save my M.
On the plus side, I got myself up and going and to work on time, I had a productive day - I was unengaged last week, which isn't good. I kind of feel this work persona emerging that is pissed off - which, on one hand, isn't so good, on the other makes me more like all the other managers here. Ha ha. Still feeling sick to my stomach in the morning (and much of the time) is still a problem, - I've lost 20 pounds since this began in late July. But still I kind of feel like maybe I've taken a step up on on the staircase of coping.
That's a horrible metaphor.
Still not getting good sleep.
OK that's enough of my rambing. Talk to all you people later, stay strong.
